Dear Lucia:
When I was in my last year of college, I loved a boy and expressed my feelings to him, but he rejected me. We lost touch after graduation. Now five years have passed by, and recently I found him on Facebook.
After reading his posts and looking at his photos, I found that I still have a lot feelings for him. I know it's not healthy and that I should have moved on, but I just can't resist the feeling that drives me to think of him constantly. What should I do? Lindsay
Dear Lindsay,
I can totally identify with your story. When I was living in Italy I met a guy that I had a casual relationship with and I could never get him out of my mind. A few years ago I found him online. We met up for one last time and now I’m over him.
When there are strong feelings for someone, they don’t generally go away with just the passing of time, especially if the other person didn’t feel the same. Maybe if you had had a chance to date him and know him better, you would have found out you weren’t that compatible and been able to move on by now.
The only thing to do is contact him with a casual messsage – like an old school friend saying hello. Keep it short, don’t bring up your feelings. If he responds, you can start an online dialog and see where it goes from there. Let him be the one to bring up talking on the phone or getting together. Good luck.
