For Women

He's Giving Me Mixed Signals

Hi Lucia, We lived together and I moved out in April after I asked him to partake in counseling. He said yes, and then he said no and that he didn’t…

Is This A Fake Break Up?

Hi Lucia, Should I be in a no contact with my ex if I'm the one who hung up on him during an argument and did not call him for three days? When i did…

My Ex Went Back To His Ex

Hi Lucia, I started dating a guy who was in a 10 year relationship. They had serious issues; they didn’t enjoy doing the same things, there was a…

I'm Dating A Commitment Phobe

Dear Lucia,I truly love a man that I’ve been involved with on and off for six years. I’m 34 and he’s 40. We once lived together for a year until I…

I'm Dating A Married Man

Hi Lucia, I'm 24 and have been going with a 36 year old married man for several years. When we first went out he didn't tell me he was married and…

My Fiance Is Cheating

Hi Lucia, I am engaged to a guy that I have been involved with for six years. I broke it off with him in August because he cheated on me. Three…

For Men

Is She Breadcrumbing Me?

Hi Lucia, I was recently involved with a lady who stated she wasn’t looking for a commitment. She apparently came out of a bad relationship and…

I Went On Vacation With My Ex

Hi Lucia, I'm going into week 7 of no contact and nothing. Every day I think I’m getting better but then start to think it’s another day of her…

Should I Date A Recent Divorcée?

Hi Lucia, I went out with a coworker a couple of times, but then a new person started working in a different department and she started dating him.…

She Doesn't Want To Be Exclusive

Hi Lucia I was dating a girl over a period of 5 months and went on 7 dates in total. However, it got to the 7th date and I brought up the…

Sexual Double Standard

Hi Lucia, I'm always confused as to why women have two totally contradictory standards for having sex with a man. Most women (when they meet your…